Yesterday we went to Uncle AB’s party on his successful ILR Application. Mommy was liking the food, but I wasn’t. It was too spicy. I guess she forgot I was eating half of what she was.
This post is not for the food, but for something serious that Daddy was discussing with Uncle Sid and others in the party. They were discussing how parents can facilitate a child’s acceptance amongst their friends, peers and other groups in the school.
Your child’s performance and emotional positivity is greatly enhanced by his acceptance in his peer groups. If a child is accepted, cooperated with and shown respect by his friends at school, they tend to perform better at studies.
If you feel your child is not being accepted by his friends or peers, these are some of the most important things you should focus on:
Good Communication Skills: It is important for any child to be able to communicate with others freely and effortlessly to be able to socialize. If you can, encourage your child to be clear in his or her communication. You may encourage him to use the following techniques:
- Use the other child’s name
- Establish eye contact
- If needed to draw attention, touch the child they intended to address
- Always reply to other kids who speak to them
- Never ignoring when anyone is talking
- Never change the subject
Parents must also try to understand what reputation or role does the child play in his social group. This is likely to influence the way other children think of your child and accept or reject your child.
Strategies to Consider
One of the easiest strategies to adopt is to send your child into a group with an interesting toy or game that requires a larger group to play together. Since your child is the owner of the toy or game, he is more likely to organise and coordinate, thus encouraging his acceptance and motivating others to cooperate with him.
Skits, puppet shows, or group discussions that present hypothetical situations can encourage a wide range of ideas for potential solutions.
If you are on the spot, you may encourage a healthy conversation by asking your child or other children to reason why they want to play a different game, or even tell them how your child can contribute to the group.
Use of the above techniques will help, however it is also recommeded to speak to the teachers for more help when the child is at school.