This weekend I went to the park with Daddy. We saw two boys fighting with each other. Their parents were trying hard to separate them from each other. I was astonished to see them fighting like this. After sometime, the parents finally separated the boys and took them back home. We also came back home in the evening. I told Daddy that I was a little scared to see the boys fighting in the park. Daddy explained to me that we fight like this when we are very angry. And, there are a few ways of managing a child’s anger. He explained to me how he and Mumma both try to manage my anger.
Here is what he told me about parents managing their child’s anger:
1.Be compassionate and provide comfort: Daddy told me that the parents should be compassionate towards their child. This provides comfort to the child and he or she starts to feel loved and cared for by the parents. Acceptance and validation by the parents helps in pacifying the anger and this eventually helps the young one to calm down.
2.Listen to the child’s problems: The parents should always listen patiently to what their child has to say about the situation which caused him or her so much of anger. This way they can get to the root cause of the problems and the child also feels the parents’ involvement with him or her. More the involvement of the parents with the child, easier it would be for both the parents and the child to figure out the problems in life and sort them accordingly.
3.Praise the child for doing some work: Praising a child for doing any work gives him or her happiness and a sense of achievement .This helps in gaining a lot of confidence in life. When the child is in a good mood and in the comfort of the parents’ proximity, they can explain the child about the consequences of all their actions – good or bad.
4.Be an example: The parents are the first set of people that the child follows as an example. If the parents maintain their calm in front of the children and never lose their temper even in frustration, the child will also follow them eventually.
Daddy told me that we all get upset and frustrated at times. Getting angry is okay but, it is not necessary that we take out our anger on the person nearby or on the things in front of us. We should not be hitting someone out of anger. We also should not throw or break things just because we are angry. Instead, we should take a deep breath and try to calm ourselves down before we act out of anger. Daddy also told me that if we keep ourselves occupied with things that we like to do such as our hobby, we are more likely to be in a happy mood always. This will reduce the chances of getting frustrated and angry on small little things.